Protect yourself physically and emotionally — A Caution The first rule for meeting with a narcissist or someone who has been abusive to you in the past is, “Safety First”. Don’t put yourself or your children at risk of violence. If you have any doubt about your safety do not meet with a dangerous person. Boundaries Now that we…

I’m here to serve you — Hi! I’m Julia Freeman and I’m a Domestic Violence and Narcissistic Abuse survivor. I write under an alias I chose while living in a domestic violence shelter. I have a bunch of children, love to read, write, watch movies, and help others. I have been a writer since before I could…

Part I: Examples from my former husband — Abuse is abuse even when we excuse it with a chuckle, while the abuser attempts to win our favor by acting like a loveable, but unruly child. Things he said “I’m sorry for yelling with you.” My former husband made this faux apology after we had a blowout because of some abusive thing…

A simple tool to help you heal and live free — What is an abuse list? It’s a list of all the abusive things someone has done to you that you use to stay low or no contact with them. Sounds simple, right? Let’s dig into this topic to see how important it can be for your healing journey. My story When I…

Let’s have some fun — First I must apologize because I used the wrong mic to record this episode. Picture me talking into my official podcast mic while the mic on my webcam was recording the audio. Facepalm. I forgot to change the settings in the recording software before I started. …

Coercive control is more difficult to explain and “prove” — Disclaimer: I am not speaking of a healthy relationship where the partners have chosen specific roles while still loving and supporting each other. Coercive control is where one partner dominates and controls the other by slowly eroding personal boundaries and pushing them beyond their comfort zone to “possess” them. Recently…

Will it ever seem easy? — Single parenting is one of the hardest things I have ever done I didn’t realize how difficult it was to be a single parent until I became one. I thought I was doing most of the parenting already so what would make it more difficult. I now laugh at my blissful ignorance. Single parenting is not just about taking care of the…