Single Moms Facing a Future Empty Nest

What will you do when all the kids are grown and gone?


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Have you ever thought far enough into your future to imagine your life as a single mom when all your children have grown up and left your home? Or are you too busy taking care of children, working, and making all the pieces come together to think about it?

I recently looked over a list of dreams and goals I wrote for myself a few years ago. As I looked at the goal writing prompt which was to envision your life thirty years later I realized I was way off the mark.

Most of my goals included my children as minors still living with me. Seems I only thought ten years into the future not twenty or thirty years when my children will all be grown and on their own. Well, now I have to make a whole new vision for my future.

I was left feeling empty about what I am going to do when my kids were gone.

I realized that I need to live my life now for my future and what I want to be doing when I have an empty nest.

The only time I’ve really thought about my kids leaving home was when I was married. I thought I would have time to travel and enjoy life with my spouse. Things did not go according to my plans.

Now I am a single mom who will be facing an empty home in about ten years.

That still seems like a long time from now. In reality it is not that far into the future. My life will be completely different by then.

Realizing that my dreams were set for a life with my children and now I need to set them for a life with myself was a little shocking. I’ve been working through it all week.

I’m growing more comfortable with dreaming of a life for myself and how I want to live as a truly single person someday. It is kind of exciting, actually.

If you are a single parent with grown up children I would love to hear some of your favorite things about being truly on your own. I need some new dreams to imagine for my future.

I hope you are living in freedom and peace,




Julia Freeman, Trauma Recovery Coach

I believe survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence deserve to live in freedom and peace.