Excuses and the Narcissist

They avoid accountability at all cost

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Narcissists can’t give you a straight answer. Their game is to avoid being held accountable for anything. You can tell they are up to something if they won’t answer a simple question. Their inability to give an answer is your clue that they are planning something or avoiding being held accountable.

A common tactic is for them to use “we” when they are letting you know what they will be doing. Using “we” gives them a way out of anything in the future. One way the narcissist I have to communicate with does this is through email. Example: “We will be taking the children to Disneyland out of state for three days” They can simply blame anyone but themselves since “they” weren’t the only ones doing the thing.

Once you know someone is a narcissist you can start studying their patterns to see how they avoid accountability. It’s very similar to a lying child and should be easy to see when you can begin to believe they really are just giant children.



Julia Freeman, Trauma Recovery Coach

I believe survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence deserve to live in freedom and peace.