Survivor’s Journal

Breaking the Trauma Response of Busyness

This one takes lots of time


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The Problem

I am a master at multi-tasking, or so I think. I’ve heard about the studies that prove we can’t actually do more than one thing at a time well and I’m beginning to believe this to be true.

I can’t watch a movie or tv show without doing something else at the same time. I can’t listen to a podcast unless I’m driving or folding laundry. I can’t just sit down and focus on breathing and being alive for more than a couple of minutes.

Why is it important to be able to stop the busyness? For one thing, busyness can be addicting. For another, we lose our ability to be present with others and ourselves when we are used to doing, doing, doing.

Is it really a problem and why? Yes, it is. We use being focused on everything but how we are doing as a way to avoid the trauma and recovery we need to work through. Why? Because it is hard work to heal. We will have to learn healthier behaviors and responses to what we are using as a band-aid to keep limping through life.

Healing is the difference between surviving and thriving.



Julia Freeman, Trauma Recovery Coach

I believe survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence deserve to live in freedom and peace.