Protect yourself physically and emotionally — A Caution The first rule for meeting with a narcissist or someone who has been abusive to you in the past is, “Safety First”. Don’t put yourself or your children at risk of violence. If you have any doubt about your safety do not meet with a dangerous person. Boundaries Now that we…

I’m here to serve you — Hi! I’m Julia Freeman and I’m a Domestic Violence and Narcissistic Abuse survivor. I write under an alias I chose while living in a domestic violence shelter. I have a bunch of children, love to read, write, watch movies, and help others. I have been a writer since before I could…

Part I: Examples from my former husband — Abuse is abuse even when we excuse it with a chuckle, while the abuser attempts to win our favor by acting like a loveable, but unruly child. Things he said “I’m sorry for yelling with you.” My former husband made this faux apology after we had a blowout because of some abusive thing…

Single-parent employment and income backup plan — In this episode of The Learning to Live Free podcast, I’m talking about the backup plan single parents need to have in order to protect themselves from disaster. As single parents, we have more to fear from a few missed days of work or being laid off than those…

Build your buffer zone and backup plan so you don’t have to worry about the future — Oh No! You receive the dreaded call from your child’s school. Illness has hit your house and now you will have to leave work early and miss a few days of work. You begin to worry about the financial implications of a smaller paycheck. Or how about this one? You hurt yourself…

How do you make it through the uncomfortable? — Do you ever feel like you are on the edge of gigantic change? You can feel it in the air and it has you running scared. How do you get through it in one piece? This is the uncomfortable feeling of growth. I went on vacation by myself a few…

Some tips to help you make the most of it — Did you leave a narcissist? Congratulations you have just won a second chance at life. The second chance to live our lives is an exciting gift we receive after facing denial and choosing to live in the truth. Your new world is full of freedom and possibility. …

Live it up — After you leave an abusive relationship you have a second chance at life. Here are some things we have to work through to live our best second life ever. The transition from abusive relationship to healing to normal life. What you are up against and what will help. The…

Live well and enjoy life — I recorded a podcast episode about making a single-person bucket list a while ago but never followed up with an article explaining the what, why, and how. Here it is. We all know what a bucket list is at this point. It’s a list of all those things you want…