Welcome to my profile Hello and welcome to my profile. I’m Julia and I’ve been writing about narcissistic abuse and domestic violence for a few years. Who Am I? I am a survivor of narcissistic abuse. I lived in a domestic violence shelter for almost a year after I was told by the…

Sadly, I know I’m not the only one who has asked this question — Would they really go that far? I almost died once while I was alone with a narcissist. I remember reaching a point where I thought I could live or die and choosing to live. That was the rock bottom that forced me to face the reality of my relationship with this person. …

Build your buffer zone and backup plan so you don’t have to worry about the future — Oh No! You receive the dreaded call from your child’s school. Illness has hit your house and now you will have to leave work early and miss a few days of work. You begin to worry about the financial implications of a smaller paycheck. Or how about this one? You hurt yourself…

Protect yourself physically and emotionally — A Caution The first rule for meeting with a narcissist or someone who has been abusive to you in the past is, “Safety First”. Don’t put yourself or your children at risk of violence. If you have any doubt about your safety do not meet with a dangerous person. Boundaries Now that we…

What does it mean if you don’t? — I realized something interesting today while I was watching a romantic movie. I don’t remember the first kiss I had with my ex-husband. Is that strange? Maybe I blocked it out? I remember my first kiss with my high school boyfriends. I remember the first kiss I ever had. I…

I went back to the domestic violence shelter where I used to live. — Sometimes we need to go back to where we came from to remember who we really are. To see what we are made of and what got us to where we are now. I returned to the domestic violence shelter where I lived for most of a year to answer…

We may as well make peace with what will happen anyway — I’m having a difficult time failing in my business ventures even after I made a commitment to fail five times a month. Why? It’s hard to think of things to try. And what if everything you try works out? Then what? …

Is it time to move on? Your New Reality You’ve already gone through so much by leaving an abusive relationship. Your whole life has changed. When you first left everything was chaotic. It took months, years even to get to the place of calm and peace you now live in. But, you begin…

Here’s where I’m coming from — My opinions and beliefs are the filter through which I write and help other survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence. I thought it was about time I shared them with you. I Believe I believe survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence deserve to live in freedom and peace. I want…