Some tips and tools to help you care for your children — If you are a mama and a survivor this article is for you. Our little ones depend on us to teach them the tools they need to do well in this world. Here are some things that have helped me help my children. Meltdown Time During a meltdown, I try to stay…

I’m here to serve you — Hi! I’m Julia Freeman and I’m a Domestic Violence and Narcissistic Abuse survivor. I write under an alias I chose while living in a domestic violence shelter. I have a bunch of children, love to read, write, watch movies, and help others. I have been a writer since before I could…

Part I: Examples from my former husband — Abuse is abuse even when we excuse it with a chuckle, while the abuser attempts to win our favor by acting like a loveable, but unruly child. Things he said “I’m sorry for yelling with you.” My former husband made this faux apology after we had a blowout because of some abusive thing…

Podcast episode — Hello everyone! Today I talk about why the loneliness following a narcissistic relationship is so much worse than a “normal” break-up and what you can do about it. I will discuss how a narcissist becomes the center of your universe so that you have lost yourself by the time you…

Part of healing is connecting with others — When I feel lonely I remember that I need to keep growing my connection to my local community. We need to be part of a community to keep healing and learn not only to live free but to thrive. After being isolated it takes a lot of work to interact…

You can make it to the other side — Why is loneliness so much worse after an abusive relationship with a narcissist? The narcissist has used everything in his bag of tricks to pull you into his world and mold you into the person he wants you to be. When you finally leave you are left wondering what just…

Is it worth it? — Would you ever consider meeting with your narcissistic ex? Recently, I felt the payoff of meeting with him would be greater than the cost. I have survived to share my experience and what I learned. In the podcast episode, I have linked below you will find: I will talk about…