Some tips and tools to help you care for your children — If you are a mama and a survivor this article is for you. Our little ones depend on us to teach them the tools they need to do well in this world. Here are some things that have helped me help my children. Meltdown Time During a meltdown, I try to stay…

I’m here to serve you — Hi! I’m Julia Freeman and I’m a Domestic Violence and Narcissistic Abuse survivor. I write under an alias I chose while living in a domestic violence shelter. I have a bunch of children, love to read, write, watch movies, and help others. I have been a writer since before I could…

Part I: Examples from my former husband — Abuse is abuse even when we excuse it with a chuckle, while the abuser attempts to win our favor by acting like a loveable, but unruly child. Things he said “I’m sorry for yelling with you.” My former husband made this faux apology after we had a blowout because of some abusive thing…

Let’s have some fun with this week’s topic — Dreaming of your future tells your mind you have a future. In this episode I explore dreaming and how we lose our dreams in a narcissistic relationship. How I lost my dreams. Daring to dream again. Do we lose our dreams because of psychological abuse? Look at your experience…

You should never lose hope for the future — Losing My Dreams I’m not sure the rate at which your dreams fall to the wayside when you are in a relationship with a narcissist but I know that by 20 years I had lost almost all of mine. The only dreams I had left before the very end were the dreams we…

We lose our dreams when life gets hard. It’s time to find them again. — Daring to Dream I think dreams may be a concrete way to hold onto hope. People who don’t live in hope don’t dream of their future. Your job is to hold onto hope and your future. What is a dream? Anything you would like to do or have in your future. They can…

Inch by inch and step by step they are facing reality — My headline is full of the hope I have for my future with my children. They are very slowly facing reality and choosing their own paths to freedom. I am moving ahead with my life, finally. It took over three years to get the mess of divorce and custody taken…

Ugh — This episode was triggered by my ex-husband approaching me at a recent child exchange. Yuck! Here are my thoughts on the situation, how it made me feel, and the realization that I will never truly be free from the abuser. Topics I touched on include: The ever-changing Post-separation cycle of…