Build your buffer zone and backup plan so you don’t have to worry about the future — Oh No! You receive the dreaded call from your child’s school. Illness has hit your house and now you will have to leave work early and miss a few days of work. You begin to worry about the financial implications of a smaller paycheck. Or how about this one? You hurt yourself…

Protect yourself physically and emotionally — A Caution The first rule for meeting with a narcissist or someone who has been abusive to you in the past is, “Safety First”. Don’t put yourself or your children at risk of violence. If you have any doubt about your safety do not meet with a dangerous person. Boundaries Now that we…

How to protect your mental and emotional health when you can’t go no-contact — Number One Don’t? Okay, okay, I’m kidding. Communication with someone who is more interested in destroying you than finding a resolution to a problem can be its own form of torture. Do yourself a favor and only communicate when you absolutely have to and in a way that protects your mental and…

A deeper look into why the narcissist needs a scapegoat Have you ever wondered why the narcissist assigns one of his children to be a scapegoat? Recently, I came to a new awareness of what this child’s role is for the narcissist. What is a scapegoat? In the days that Isreal was traveling to…

How to get them back — Dead Dreams Did you know being in a relationship with a narcissist will make you give up on your dreams? Giving up your dreams is a huge red flag. No one should want you to stop dreaming so you can stay in a relationship with them. When you are in a bad…

A pattern of behavior — Before We Begin Note: Details have been changed to protect the guilty. Keep in mind that narcissists can be very subtle in their behavior. You are looking for a pattern of bad behavior to help you answer the question of whether someone is a narcissist or not. There are quizzes you can find…

Changes are coming to my medium content and podcast. I have decided to be more careful about what I share and how it can impact me and my children. I don’t want to put myself in a situation where I can be sued for libel. Yikes! I will be moving…

Your brain can heal — After years of experiencing physical, psychological, or emotional abuse you may be suffering from nightmares about those who abused you even if you are now free. Have you ever wondered if you could be free of horrible dreams? The first step in taking action is questioning whether you have to…

Savala Nolan leaves me speechless this week. We must do better. The Delight and Terror of Loving Black Men There are so many Black men I love. My dad. My brother. Cousins and nephews. Friends and colleagues. Ancestors. Artists…zora.medium.com